Posted by: allaboutcheryl | August 18, 2017

Nuturimg Your Friends

I am going to have to start reading my inspirational motivators earlier in the day.I read this just after I hung up with a lady who used to be my best friend. My sistah-girl friend.

Now, I barely talk to her.

What happened?

Maybe she left me or I’m jealous of her. She working on her doctorate. And I’m not.

She had a stroke the day before my mother’s funeral. She refused to stay in the hospital to get additional treatment. So, she hasn’t recovered as much as she could have or should have.

Now, she’s somewhat clingy, needy. I think I resent that. Who she’s become.

Am I being too honest, too open?

But this was supposed to be about me nurturing my friends. I guess I had to realize why I wasn’t.

We did have a longer phone conversation today. I tried to be more engaging like in the past.

Maybe this tip is not so much about me helping my friends. Because, if she said she needed me for anything, I’d be there. But maybe this is more about me examining myself to get rid of my petty ways, my feelings of inferiority or insecurity so that I can show myself to be a better, truer friend.

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Posted by: allaboutcheryl | August 18, 2017

Give Yourself a Pat on the Back (5/360)

LOL!!  

It’s kinda hard to give your own self a pat on the back.

If you are a contortionist, you can grab your right elbow with your left hand and push your right hand over your left shoulder to pat yourself on the back.

Or you could get a back scratcher shaped like a hand and whack yourself on the back.

Or…

You could get someone to do it for you…..but I really digress!

What’s important here, is to believe in yourself. 

…I need to change the tone…this is about me, not you.

I need to believe in me. Myself. 

I need to believe in the things that I have accomplished and even the things that I may not have finished, but at least I have started.

Sometimes, I can be very hard on myself. I beat me up when I don’t finish a task or a goal. Then that makes me not want to pick up that task again.

But, I am not perfect and I need to allow for my imperfections. BUT… by the same token, I do need to set some goals, some parameters to keep me on track. Or I’ll be like I am with my novel. I need to do just two more things, then I am ready to send it to the publisher. I am hoping this blog will motivate me to get up and get going. 

I have to stop looking at the external things, some of which I have no control. I need to focus on the internal. Me. 

It’s good to build up myself and congratulate my accomplishments. I just need to make sure these accomplishments are more than just brushing my teeth!

Posted by: allaboutcheryl | August 16, 2017

Do a Yoga Pose (4/361)

When I am using my Wii to exercise, walk or do yoga, I imagine in my mind, how graceful I am and how fluid my moves are. Until one time, I taped myself!
OMG!!
My ego came down several levels!
There are come yoga moves where I need to use a chair for support. Then there are some that I would call my favorites. One of them would be Sun Salutations. I like this on because I feel that I can do it pretty well.
Now, I’m sure that with proper breathing, these poses are to relax a person. But what about the sitting and repeating a word or a phrase…or trying to empty your mind…oh yeah, meditation. I’ve never tried that, except when I am laying in bed trying to go to sleep.
When we were on vacation in Myrtle Beach, year before last, we took a couple Tai Chi classes at the local library. Even though the classes were free, we stopped going after a while because we didn’t like how the instructor was teaching…or maybe it was us? But I don’t think so, because we did ask a few people who were going to drop out as well. We all that thought he talked too much, and there was not enough time devoted to going through the moves.
I know that it is important to find a way to de-stress yourself. And I really need to! I’ve been taking my blood pressure at home for the past ten days or so and my numbers are not good at all. So, I need to find a way to take myself to a ‘happy place,’ literally and figuratively.
I haven’t practiced my yoga in a while, but now, I will be more conscious about working that into my regiment.

Posted by: allaboutcheryl | August 14, 2017

Value My Talents (3/362)

Which one?

I think I have multiple talents. But which one is my inspirational thought pushing me towards?

Even though my mother-in-law will be moving to an assisted living facility soon, like tomorrow… I feel the return of Hotel Jordan with so many people coming in and out to help her.

So things are in a disarray. 

Chaotic, would be a better word.

I am trying hard not to be too nick-picky, I am trying to desperately understand that everyone was not raised by my mother who drilled certain housekeeping procedures into us.  

It’s like the Golden Rule For Living

If you open it, close it. 

If you turn it on, turn it off. 

If you unlock it, lock it up. 

If you break it, admit it. 

If you can’t fix it, call in someone who can. 

If you borrow it, return it. 

If you value it, take care of it. 

If you make a mess clean it up. 

If you move it, put it back. 

If it belongs to someone else and you want to use it, get permission. 

If you don’t know how to operate it, leave it alone. 

If it’s none of your business, don’t ask questions. 

If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.

So to keep from frustrating the heck out of myself during this short term visit, I’ve put some things away…but called out the perpetrator out on others.

But my mantra has been, ‘this too will pass….’

Posted by: allaboutcheryl | August 13, 2017

Alone or A Loner? (2/363)

OK…I’m confused. A lot of times, even in a crowd of people, sometimes I will find myself by myself. 

Sometimes, that’s bothers me, but other times it does not.

Like today, the house was filled with Hubby’s folks. 

They weren’t here to see me. So I came into my office and closed the door. 

Later, I could hear lots of loud laughter. 

That rarely happens in our house.

But, I did not go downstairs to check it out.

Then I could hear footsteps and voices outside my closed door.

But, still I didn’t check it out.

I was comfortable in my closed environment doing what I wanted to do. 

Not that it was anything earth shattering, but it was what I wanted to do at that time.

I can be very content by myself, doing my own thing. 

I don’t always need people to entertain me. 

I’m an avid reader, a computer geek and a writer. 

I have enough to do to keep busy.

But you know what…..I’m OK. 

This is who I am. 

I am not going to change to meet someone else’s expectations of me.

I am not a hermit.

I do have friends, family, Hubby and enough acquaintances to fulfill any social obligations.  

I just like my quiet time and sometimes I prefer that over being with people. 

And it’s like when I go to the gym.

It amazing how many people are there to socialize. 

I want to concentrate on what I can there for. 

To tone and exercise.

So my conversations are short, but polite. 

Every blue moon, someone will succeed in engaging me in a longer conversation, but that is the exception and not the rule.

Bottom line.

Am I OK with who I am?

Yes!

Posted by: allaboutcheryl | August 12, 2017

Lists (1/364)

I love lists.  

I love checking things off. 

I would be the perfect helper for Santa Claus….
But…I’m not…

But I still love lists. 

So, I found this list online of 370 positive things to do. They looked pretty interesting and varied. It was recommended that you print the list, cut it up, put the items in a bag or something to pull one out each day.

So I did.
Now I need to fold each one, very tiny and put in a bag.

Why am I doing this?

I don’t know? Sometimes I feel like my personality gets in a rut and could use a good shaking out, like a dusty rug. Maybe this will spark some new, better habits for me. 

The ones that really affect me, or that are really funny or fun to do, I’ll make sure that I share them with you.

Oh, by the way, the number next to the title is how many days that I’ve been sixty-four and how many days before I turn sixty-five.

Again, why??? Again…I don’t know…

But I do that a lot. On my bottles of medicine, I write the date when I should be finished taking them. I do that on the top of my Metamucil powder. When I buy the huge bags of paper cups for the bathrooms, I’ll put a note in the bag to see how long it takes to use them. Recently, I noticed on the bottom of my Q-tip box that I bought it 2005! Crazy! And the crazier part, is that I’ve only used less than half the box!!! Why did I buy such a big one? 

But, that’s me. We all have our little idiosyncrasies.

Posted by: allaboutcheryl | August 12, 2017

0/365

It is my desire to journal my journey to 65. I wanted to do this when I turned 58, to track my steps to 60…sigh…but I didn’t. This time, I want to be more diligent. Plus it’s a shorter time period and maybe I won’t get so overwhelmed by the task. LOL!! I know…it’s only a years difference, so I guess that I’m looking for any excuse!Not that I haven’t been having fun, I have! I just want to make a more conscious, concerted effort to have fun.

As one of my old pastors’ used to say, “Life is short, death is for sure, but only what you do for Christ will last.”

I want to do what Christ will want me to do. I want to have joy in my life, in Nehemiah 8:10B, it says, “…for this day is holy to our Lord; and do not be grieved, for the joy of the Lord is your strength.”

(Notice the reference number is 8:10…?, my birthdate….)

And in this crazy, chaotic and unpredictable world, in Christ will be the only sure way to have joy!

Posted by: allaboutcheryl | August 10, 2017

I am 64!

OK….today is the day!

I am 64 and I am loving it! My new theme song is by the Beatles, When I'm 64.
I enjoyed today. But more accurately, I have enjoyed life. Yes, I've had some ups and downs. Some good and bad days. Some peaks and valleys. But, through it all…God has kept me and sustained me.
I know too many people younger than me, who have died long ago.

So I cherish each day.

I am proud of my age.

It is a blessing!

I still have so much to do. So much too learn.

I look at each day as a beautifully wrapped gift from God that takes 24 hours to unwrap and enjoy…but then I have another gift to unwrap the very next day.
I am looking forward to the future. What does it hold for me? Where am I going? What will I be doing?

I want to be prepared and ready. In the best health; physically, mentally and spiritually.

I want to do the things that are necessary.

I want to forget about the things that are not necessary.

I want to smile more and frown less.

I want to help people and not hurt them.

I want to be spontaneous and not a stick in the mud.
I want to be colorful, not drab.

Laughing loudly not scolding.

I want people to want to be around me and not avoid me.

I want to enjoy this life to the fullest!!!

Holding on with both hands, because this will be a wild ride!

Posted by: allaboutcheryl | July 29, 2017

Motivated or Not

Motivation: noun, the general desire or willingness of someone to do something.When I read or hear about the achievements or the accomplishments of others, I think, “Wow! What about me? Why can’t I do something like that?” Then I put that thought behind me, as I log into my Facebook account or play UpWords to spend several hours of mindless, unproductive time.

I want to be motivated. I can be motivated for a minute. But I want to stay motivated. I want to finish something. I want to see my ideas blossom, grow and cumulate into a finished project. 

But I get distracted. I lose interest sometimes. I’m not always sure what to do next. Or I have too many things going on at one time.

So, I’ll make a list to keep me organized. Then I’ll check my list. Next, I’ll make a list to make sure I check my list. I carry over my unfinished items to the next day to and make them a priority. I can spend so much time checking and managing my lists that I lose sight of what I’m supposed to be doing.

What I want to do is write.

I love writing.

I have a novel, that after seven years, I’ve finally finished all my edits. I have a graphic artist who is working on my cover. But I need to be other things. I need to get copyrighted and I need an ISBN number. I have things that I need to do…I just need to get off my duff and do them. 

I also need to practice my reading and writing. But, I’ve gotten so hooked on reading what other people have published, that at the end of the day, I’m too tired and not motivated enough to do any writing of my own.

…sigh…

Posted by: allaboutcheryl | July 29, 2017

Little Things

Maybe it’s just me…But sometimes, when I thank God for what He’s done for me…it’s big things. Keeping me from hurt, harm and danger. Watching over me through night. Keeping me in my right health and strength. Food on my table, clothes on my back.

Even writing these…those sound somewhat cliché-ist (is that a word? Spellcheck says, no). I am not saying that these are not important. But we, rather I, go through the day with so many missed opportunities to thank the Lord.

Such as:

– I didn’t stumble and fall down the stairs in my house.

– While running errands, I arrive to each of my destinations safely.

– At the gym while doing water aerobics, I did not drown, nor suffer any other accident.

– I didn’t slip and fall on the wet tile at the pool or in the locker room.

– No one broke into my locker and stole my belongings.

– I was able to safely drive back home.

– I didn’t slip or fall in the shower.

– I didn’t burn myself nor catch the house on fire, while cooking my breakfast.

– I didn’t choke on my food while eating. 

– I didn’t trip or fall down the stairs, while carrying newly washed laundry.

– For getting through my meeting without stumbling over or messing up my part.

– Not choking on my mint.

– Not falling out of bed to retrieve my dropped phone.

– That my phone didn’t break when dropped.

…I know that I’m still missing so many other opportunities to pray.

Lord, open my eyes to all of the blessings that You’ve given me!

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